Tuesday, August 22, 2006
Why aren't you married yet?
If you're single, I'm sure you've been asked this question.
I get it all the time and I never know how to reply. There doesn't seem to be any reason - at least not one that can act as a real explanation. Is it just that I haven't met the right person yet? It sounds simplistic, but maybe that's all the answer there is.
Sometimes, instead of the question, people offer suggestions about why it is that I haven't yet found a man to marry. I've heard everything from "Men are intimidated by smart women" to "Men must be pretty stupid". For the record, I don't believe either! Though, maybe I can use one of those lines next time someone asks me "The Question".
Even though I'm sure the question isn't meant to be hurtful, it often leaves me feeling that I need to examine myself to find the reason that I'm not yet married - that there must be something there that other people can see and I can't. Maybe I haven't tried hard enough. Maybe I've been too busy. Maybe...oh, I'm tired of thinking!
I'm wondering how other single people react. Feel free to chime in.
I get it all the time and I never know how to reply. There doesn't seem to be any reason - at least not one that can act as a real explanation. Is it just that I haven't met the right person yet? It sounds simplistic, but maybe that's all the answer there is.
Sometimes, instead of the question, people offer suggestions about why it is that I haven't yet found a man to marry. I've heard everything from "Men are intimidated by smart women" to "Men must be pretty stupid". For the record, I don't believe either! Though, maybe I can use one of those lines next time someone asks me "The Question".
Even though I'm sure the question isn't meant to be hurtful, it often leaves me feeling that I need to examine myself to find the reason that I'm not yet married - that there must be something there that other people can see and I can't. Maybe I haven't tried hard enough. Maybe I've been too busy. Maybe...oh, I'm tired of thinking!
I'm wondering how other single people react. Feel free to chime in.
